1. Don’t be needy.
If she doesn’t text you for a while, do you message her to ask if anything’s wrong? Do you get nervous when she’s in a bad mood or not wanting to talk, and happy when she seems happy with you? If so, you’re needy. “Needy” is somewhere between “creepy” and “leprous” on a list of Qualities Women Never Want in a Partner. Some single men base their self-worth on how many women they’ve picked up or slept with. With some attached men, it’s about their partner’s approval. Either way, it’s a strategy doomed to failure, like trying to fill a bucket with water when it has a hole in it. It’s somewhat paradoxical, but the more obsessively a man tries to make his partner happy and the more he reacts to every perceived change in her mood, the less likely he is to keep her interested in him. No one likes a pushover, and few women like to be the one leading the relationship all the time.
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2. Keep World of Warcraft to yourself, but don’t drop it completely.
You’re really into your new girlfriend and you’ve decided that she’s a keeper. To spend time with her, you’ll need to cut back somewhere else in your schedule. Fair enough. But don’t abandon who you are (per Aristotle, “We are what we repeatedly do”). Otherwise you risk no longer being the person she became attracted to in the first place. Bring her along when you’re doing some of your favorite things, if possible. Usually these will be in worlds in which you are an authority, or at least more of an authority than she is. For example, invite her to come out and watch you play a sport or tag along with you and your friends when you go to your regular spot. And keep some of your hobbies separate. She’s probably never going to be all that interested in World of Warcraft. It’s not healthy to be together 24/7 anyway. Let her miss you sometimes. Give each other some space to grow.