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Biggest Mistakes Men Make In Relationships

Biggest Mistakes Men Make In Relationships

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1. Always Picking Holes In Everything Your Woman Does – Fault Finding

Many men in an attempt to establish their dominance and leadership of the home make the blunder of finding fault in everything their woman does and scolding her for it. This is retrogressive. It does not help at all. It has killed a lot of potential relationships that would have ended up in a sweet marriage. No one can be like you. No one can be perfect as you expect or do things the way you do them. You must always remember this as you relate. Do not forget that the woman was given to the man to help him in life. Therefore, give her a chance to perform that responsibility by being more accommodating and not hostile to her. It may take some time for her to catch up and measure up to your standard, so give her some time.  If you as a man does not like all you have seen in her, and after talking about it to her nicely about some of your concerns (there are some habits that must really go that are very bad), you find she is adamant about making any changes, either you get used to it, or you quit the relationship.

  

2. You Might Actually Be Scared Of Her Or Intimidated By Her

I hate to even bring this one up, but some of you know it’s true so let’s just get it out of the way. Guys tend to want to be in control and the truth of the matter is…feminine energy is all about flow. Men can’t really hold back the “flow” of the tides, and feminine energy can’t effectively be controlled long-term either. Tougher guys than you have tried to control it but it doesn’t work. A smart man knows how to channel that energy instead. Sometimes it’s like a storm. It can be a perfectly beautiful day, and the next thing you know, the clouds appear, the skies get dark and all hell breaks loose. Rather than controlling it, you ride it out, respect it, and know it’s all part of the cycle of life. There’s no sunshine without rain; no happiness without grief; no black without white. The good news is that on the other side of the storm, the sun comes back out, and life is beautiful again.

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3. You Don’t Bring Her Presence

No, not that kind of presents. I’m talking about a gift of another kind. I’m talking about the same qualities that make YOU feel good. You know how it feels when you’re grounded, centered and on top of your game? You’re crystal clear on who you are and what you want. You say what you mean and you mean what you say. You stand firm and you’re unwavering in the face of resistance. Sounds great, right? Well, as good as it feels to you, women who navigate by feminine energy love and crave that even more than you! It’s hot, and it literally makes the ladies swoon when you hold that space. It makes them feel safe and protected because she trusts that you have what it takes to be her rock. By the same token, every time you act indecisive, fearful, uncertain, or all over the place, it breaks that connection and makes her lose attraction, untrusting, and even repulsed. This is a HUGE one, guys. It literally can make you…or break you.

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4. Becoming Over Possessive

This actually amounts to trying to run a woman’s life and most, perhaps all women will respond to this by gradually, but surely becoming resentful. No woman wants to be controlled like a machine without a mind of her own or say. Women want the love of the man of their dreams. However if the price of such love is the loss of her freedom to do some of those ‘harmless’ things she is used to doing before you met, then chances are she will most likely soon start to reassess her picture of you; which was originally that of, the best thing that could ever happen to her.
Adjust to accommodate your woman as you give her the opportunity to make your life exciting and peaceful. Let her maintain her freedom. You were not meant to enslave her but to make her life sweeter. The man was designed to love and care for his wife and not to make life unbearable for her.

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5. You Made Something (Or Someone) Else More Important Than Her

Feminine energy responds to adoration and praise. She needs your attention and the presence we already talked about. A compliment and your conscious focus will light her up from the inside and you will get to bask in the glow of her beautiful feminine radiance. On the other hand, because masculine energy tends to be single-focused, targeted and and an inseparable part of who you are as a man…you will, on occasion, ignore her, overlook her and maybe even take her for granted while your attention is elsewhere. This is to be expected; especially when it comes to work and providing for her – but just know that like all things – it has to be balanced. Remember: any time you fail to make her feel special and put something or someone else ahead of her for an extended time…trouble is on the horizon. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

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6. You’re Too Wishy-Washy And Made Her Feel Unsafe

This is the flip side of the presence I talked about in item number one. As intoxicating as a strong, present man can be, a wishy-washy guy who’s all over the place can be positively repulsive. It’s a huge turn-off and for good reason. Feminine energy’s number one need at all costs is to feel “safe.” She can’t feel safe at all if she’s with a spineless, jellyfish of a guy that she can push around. She may ACT like she wants to call the shots herself all the time the truth is, it is absolutely exhausting for a feminine woman to live in her masculine energy for that long. Do both of you a favor and step up into being the kind of man she can rely on to look after what’s best for both of you. Trust me— if you do this, you’ll both thank me for it.

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7. You Either Didn’t Build Trust — Or You Broke It

This is an area where men struggle quite a bit due to several factors. We’re logical while they’re emotional so we tend to be way less committed, especially early on. By the same token, feminine energy tends to think she’s in a “relationship” far sooner than men because she processes emotionally. That combination of logic and lack of early commitment often leads to men looking at other options rather quickly. Whatever mitigating factors may exist, the fact remains that trust is critical for a great relationship. Once it’s compromised or even threatened, it is difficult for two parties to regain it. So whenever possible, I urge you to proceed in this area with caution.

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8. You Don’t See The Value Of what she can bring to you

Usually when someone is far more interested in work, recreational activities or maybe even hobbies, for instance, the truth is they are simply living in alignment with their deepest values. Relationships—or at least the one you may be in at that moment —simply don’t measure up to the payoff you’re getting in other areas. People will always invest their energy where they feel they get the biggest payoff. A man who is inspired and supported in his mission by his woman will find a way to have both, but it’s up to him to prove he has the bandwidth to support both. Guys, you can get all the promotions and raises you want—or land the huge deals that really get your heart pumping—but the question I have for you is…how rewarding is it really if you don’t have someone special to celebrate your victories with at the end of the day?

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9. You’re Too Self-Absorbed

Masculine energy is heavily predisposed and wired to pursue his mission and achieve goals. He displays his value by his ability to solve problems and fix things. As a result, oftentimes, his needs are met on the most consistent basis through his work or career. In fact, one of the biggest red flags of a relationship in trouble is a man who spends a lot of time at work — not because he may be having an affair — but simply because his needs are being met primarily in the sphere of work and not in his relationship. As I said in mistake number four, any time you put work or anything else ahead of your relationship for an extended time, trouble is on the horizon. Honestly, if you’re not willing to make the effort to manage your work/life balance, you’re essentially being unfair to both a potential partner and yourself.

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10. You Don’t Know What You Want Out Of Life Or You Don’t Have Room For Her

It’s my hope that after reading this article on the mistakes men make, you’ll start to focus less on old mistakes from the past, and instead focus more on the new information I’ve shared and how to turn it all around. The simplest answer is that if you’ve had more pain than joy from your relationships in the past, and it stands to reason that you wouldn’t exactly be in a hurry to try again, but that’s just the pain and fear talking. No matter what you decide, the reality is that your knowledge, awareness and efforts are creating the life you’re leading, whether you like it or not. The truth is that we can all only get so far by ourselves. As you’ll likely hear at many weddings, the beauty of marriage or relationships in general are that you get to multiply the joy in life and divide the pain when you meet the right one for you. Whatever decision you make, I support that as the right one for you at this time.
Guys, I hope this list not only makes sense to you, but also serves as an “a-ha” moment of sorts that can turn it all around for you in the area of relationships. You should know that a huge part of what I do in my mission is help women understand and work more effectively with men. The reason why is that I know the greatness that can be unleashed in a good man by a good woman who simply gets him and adores him. I know that inside the heart of every man lies the soul of a little boy who dreamed of one day being a hero. I also know that hero is alive and well inside of you right now. He’s just waiting to be fully unleashed by an amazing woman who wants, needs, and deeply desires him. If I can help you create a relationship like that, I’d be honored to serve you. Just say the word.

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11. Refusing To Let Go Of An ‘Ex’

So you gave it your best and it didn’t work out. You did all you were taught to do, and yet it failed, and she walked out on you. Now you spend the whole of your time mourning and crying over a failed relationship. This will not help you at all. All you need to do is to let go of the past and move on with your life. Learn the lesson inherent in the mistakes you made, and believe God for another relationship that will work.
Don’t, each time you are with a new person, always talk about your ‘ex’ and what happened and how you loved her and she broke your heart and so on and so forth. If you continue, you will drive the new one away. Don’t bore her with your past. No matter how painful it may be, put it behind you and move on with your life. There are many fishes in the water. Choose out of the many that come your way the type you want.

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