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Things You Should Never Do When You First Start Dating

Things You Should Never Do When You First Start Dating

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The embryonic stage of your courtship, relationship or whatever you call it when you first start dating is quintessentially the most important time. While you’re excited to have met someone new or actually moving on to a new part of your life, it’s a time where you have to make sure you don’t ruin things by getting too far ahead of yourself. There’s nothing that anyone can do about what goes on in your head about your new dating adventure, but the goal is to keep those things from coming out. Once those thoughts turn into actions, things go awry.

Here are the Things You Should Never Do When You First Start Dating:

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1. Poor Manners.

You’re sitting at the table with an attractive date. The conversation is flowing well, and each of you feels intrigued by the other. You’re thinking, “This is a person I would love having in my life.” Then suddenly, one of the following things occur:

He utters a few curse words to punctuate a story he’s sharing.
She picks food from her teeth with her fingers.
He begins dominating the conversation and oversharing.
She takes a cell phone call, responds to a text, beginning a conversation with someone else on her electronic device.

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2. Do not be gross

Be careful not to do things such as belching or picking your nose when you are in front of your date. A). that’s just gross and B)…that’s just gross (redundancy is intentional). The point is, this is not a time to demonstrate how comfortable you are with your own body, it’s a time to focus on the other person (and hopefully not gross them away from your life).

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3. Do not stalk them

It seems as though most people’s first reaction to meeting someone and finding out their last name is to immediately “friend” them on Facebook. After the friendship is complete, ladies go straight into your pictures looking for any recurring faces… like your ex-girlfriend. The men go straight into your pictures looking for Spring Break pictures. Both of these are wrong. Facebook is a great social networking tool, but it shouldn’t replace good old-fashioned getting to know one another.

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4. Do not go on a date when you are drunk

This advice should be obvious, nevertheless some people have gone on dates after a booze session without knowing how risky that may be. You want to have a sharp mind on your first date and it only takes one drink for that edge to disappear. Charm your date with your witty humor and not your witless lack of alcohol control.

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5.  Ask invasive questions

Ask anybody who knows me and they’ll tell you that I believe in boundaries. I’m a little more complex than most guys because I’m very careful not to ask questions that would lead to similar questions being asked back. With that said, when you start to ask questions like, “Why did you break up with your ex-girlfriend?” on the first date, or “So I wanted to ask you about [that embarrassing story from college that they’ve somehow uncovered by doing a deep dive on your past],” you’re way out of line. When people ask me when is the right time to bring up the tough questions, I always say, “When they’re necessary, not when you feel like you need to know.”

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6. Do not eat garlic

I mean, why on earth will you do this, eat garlic on your first date? Don’t try it! DO NOT PLEASE! Garlic is probably the worst when it comes to making your mouth stink but the principle is the same with anything you put in your mouth; you want your mouth to smell good. Remember, you’re going to be doing a lot of talking and listening (unless it’s a bad date…in which case a stinky mouth may come in handy).

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7.  Rush things

The easiest way to get to a meaningful relationship is to develop the relationship organically. Organically means naturally and at a normal pace without any additives. I understand that no one likes idle time. I also understand that people are goal-oriented. But for Pete’s sake, don’t rush the relationship! Take your time, give both yourselves time to want to be in the midst of a relationship. You can’t go from dinner on Friday night, to an early morning text about brunch on Saturday, to “how do you feel about going to 12 o’clock service with me on Sunday?” Take your time, you’ll scare the other person away if you start smothering them out the gate.

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8. Set absurd rules

Steve Harvey time! Let’s get this out of the way right now, Steve Harvey and his 90-day rule is the dumbest sh*t on the planet. You might end up waiting 90-days to have s*x with someone. But if that’s a hard rule in your book, you got problems. Let me break this down for you. If you tell me you’re trying a 90-day rule before you have s*x with me, I’m going to ask you a question: “Why?” You’re going to attempt to answer that question and no matter what you say in your head, I’m going to think that in your past you’ve had problems keeping your legs closed. If you need a rule as silly as that one to make sure you make the right decisions when it comes to s*x, we can’t date. I’m not saying that you should have s*x on the first date. This is when you should have s*x: when you’re ready, you trust him, and you know you won’t regret it.

Stop it. Stop all of it, all of it is just ridiculous as hell!

This is my list, but what’s on yours? What are some things that one should definitely never do when they first start dating a person?

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