Your power gets lost the minute you start asking, “Where Do I Stand”? Because what have you just told him is that the terms of the relationship are not his to dictate.
If it happens too soon, he will usually think he is been coerced into a plan that is no longer his. Even one or two of the above question and …. poof
- Alarms will go off
- His guard will go up, and
- He start planning his escape
- He will not just show it (until after he sleeps with you and f*cks with your head)
He may stick around for few months and will exit later. But if you have told him you will not waste your time in a dead end relationship or that you want to be married within one year, all you have just done is tell him you are someone he needs to get away from. This is why being upfront and too opened early does not work.
Honey you have to be smart if you do not want to get heartbroken. If you want to have a long lasting relationship you have to love with your heart and think with your brain. You need both love.