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Signs You Need To Be Single For A While And Stop Dating

Signs You Need To Be Single For A While And Stop Dating

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Relationships that are on the decline can become as demanding and taxing as a full-time job. If we worked exceedingly hard to make the relationship work and it still fails, the period of singledom that follows your breakup is often riddled with signs of burnout.The term “burnout” means experiencing exhaustion, dwindling motivation, and a loss of interest in something that formerly engaged you. Here are signs that indicate you need to take a break from the relationship world…

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1. If you’re having a hard time emotionally

When you’re going through a rough period—whether it be depression, a substance abuse problem, or a body image hang-up—you might want to focus on yourself rather than a new relationship. “When you get out there and date, you always want to put your best foot forward and be your best possible self. “When you’re in a really good place and you’ve got a lot of confidence, that’s when you’ll attract a quality partner.” So if you’re going through a rough patch, check out of the dating scene for a while and tune into yourself. Eat good food, discover yourself and be happy being on your own.

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2. You think dating sounds awful.

After a breakup, some people can’t wait to get back into the dating scene, but some feel indifferent to dating for a longer period of time. These are all relatively positive reactions to being single again. But if you have a strong negative reaction to the idea of going on a date for a significant period of time post-breakup, that’s an indication of relationship burnout.

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3. If you’re having bad luck with dates

If every single date you’ve landed in the last few months has been a dud, you might be more motivated than ever to keep looking (seriously, it can only go up from here, right!?).This is a sign you need to slow down. You’ve probably heard the phrase that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, and that principle applies to dating. “So if you have a period where you feel that you’re going on the worst dates, instead of continuing to do it, that’s a good time to say, ‘OK, I’m going to take a break.’” Don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be a long dry spell. Take the time to ask yourself a few questions—like why these dates aren’t working, if you’re meeting people the right way, or if you’re putting your best self out there. The goal is to assess the damage before you reach serial dater status and lose way too many weeknights to failed Ok Cupid dates.

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4. You can only remember the bad parts of your past relationships.

Typically, when you leave a job to move on to another opportunity, you tend to remember your previous job holistically — the good parts as well as the bad. But if you quit your job because you’re completely burned out, all you can remember are the stressful and overwhelming parts of your job. If you can only remember the fights you had with your former partner and not much else, the negative energy of the breakup is still very much with you.

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5. If you had a messy breakup or divorce

Long-term relationships lead to lingering feelings, and there’s no use trying to meet someone new when you’re still stuck in the past. “I definitely feel after a major break-up or divorce, you should take a hiatus from dating.” That being said, there isn’t a set period of time to aim for here.Lot of people take six months or a year to themselves, but even they aren’t always 100 percent ready. “If you’re doing a lot better, you can get out there and date again because sometimes what you need to get over that hump is the excitement of meeting someone new or falling in love with someone else,” “But you need to be about 80 percent healed before you put yourself out there.” So if you’ve still got strong feelings for your ex—of the puppy love, crushing betrayal, or rage variety—then you probably need to put the brakes on your love life while you work things out solo.

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6. You feel cynical or pessimistic about love.

Do you imagine that if you got into another relationship, it would be doomed to fail? Do you secretly believe that people in love are fools? This type of disillusionment about love, in general, is an unfortunate consequence of relationship burnout. If you notice any of these signs in yourself, it may be time to recognize the role of relationship burnout in your life.

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