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The Real Truth About Having A Friend With Benefits…

The Real Truth About Having A Friend With Benefits…

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A relationship with no strings attached, just s.ex? That may sound perfect to some people. For some, it really can be the perfect thing they need in that specific period of their life. If you are considering having a relationship like this, beware of the possible downfalls and the real truth…

1. Every f*ck-buddy has an expiration date.

So you better take that into consideration before getting it on with someone you can’t imagine your life without. Karen began hooking up with her friend Chris last April, who introduced her to a new se.xual experience, and eventually, feelings of attachment. “The first time we hooked up, I told him that I had never had an orgasm from having se.x, while we were having s.ex,” she said. “He quickly let me know that I was about to learn.” Turns out, he was right, and she continued learning all summer long. “I lied and told him and his friends that I didn’t have feelings for him, and that it was strictly business, so to speak,” she said. Despite her growing attachment to him, the two continued to hook up … until she found out that he was dishing about their se.xcapades all over the place. “He told all of our friends that I squirted, and now they refer to my va.gina as ‘The Holy Grail’ and have nicknamed me ‘Squirtle,’ after the Pokemon character.” Yeah, consider that friendship (benefits or no benefits) officially over. So you need to take to consideration, if you van handle it then you are good to go.

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2. Make sure you are both on the same page.

This is something that is extremely important. Before you get into a friends with benefits relationship, you and the person you are about to have this with have to have a serious talk about what you both want from the relationship. This may sound dumb. After all, why talk about something that is most likely going to be casual? Talk about it to make sure it stays casual. Two people should not get into a friends with benefits relationship while on two different pages. This is very unhealthy and will end badly because someone will most likely get hurt in the end. Communicate in the beginning what the relationship is going to be like and the guidelines of it. Also, communicate your feelings throughout the relationship, so you both stay on the same page. This is very important to ensure that neither of you get hurt.

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3. Respect is key.

You have to respect the friend’s decision. Well he or she might decide to stop the s8x and want to settle for your bestfriend, so are you ready to go through with that? You need to accept anything that comes along with the benefit.

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4. Do not get into this kind of relationship with a friend you have strong feelings for.

I made this mistake. I became a friend with benefits with someone I had genuine romantic feelings for. I would recommend not doing this. Yes, it feels good to be close with them in a se.xual way, but it feels so bad and empty not to be able to be with them in a romantic way. Of course, you run the risk of developing feelings for someone you may be in a friends with benefits relationship that you did not have feelings before prior to the relationship. But if I could give any advice, it’s better not to do this with someone you have strong feelings for, especially if you know they will not get into a relationship. Having se.x with them will NOT convince them to be in a relationship with you; friends with benefits is not a slipway into that. Keep the feelings minimal. I learned this the hard way.

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5. Know that you may not be the only one.

Even if that person is the only one you are having se.x with, know that you may not be the only friend with benefits they have. It’s important to protect yourself. Your friends with benefits isn’t your boyfriend; he’s something a lot more casual. Get tested and use birth control. It is also perfectly normal to get jealous of the fact that you are not the only one, but just know that this is what you agreed to get into. You should even be prepared for the person to flirt with other people while you are around. Also know that this relationship can end at any point and possibly not mutually. The person who is your friend with benefits could wind up developing feelings for someone else and start a relationship right before your eyes. The relationship could end as fast as it begins.

Have you ever had a friend with benefits? What did you learn from the situation? Tell us in the comments below

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