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Loneliness of the Long Distance Relationship

Loneliness of the Long Distance Relationship

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There’s no two ways about it: being apart from the person you love is hard. While absence might make the heart grow fonder, it also feeds loneliness – and loneliness is a big deal. Some even believe that loneliness can do as much damage to our bodies as smoking .

But more positively for those in long distance relationships, a study suggests that actually, couples who are coping with living apart often have more intimate and meaningful interactions than couples who live together. So how can you make the most of your long distance relationship and take the edge off the loneliness?

The three most important things in keeping a long distance relationship going are… (wait for it)…

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Communication, Communication, Communication. It’s so essential we felt the need to say it thrice.

Here’s a few ways you can keep the communication oiled.

  • Have a communication schedule. This might seem a bit mechanical because it strips out the spontaneity, but having a specific time for your chats means you can look forward to the chat with your partner without putting your own life on hold whenever the call comes in. If you know when it’s happening each day, you can develop a routine where you also make time to keep up your own interests, which is also really important for your well-being. Knowing each other’s day to day schedules (shift times, important meetings, work deadlines etc) can also help you feel closer.
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  • Do things together, even though you’re apart. Maybe both read the same book, or watch the same movie at the same time. Play online games together or even both do the same crossword in the paper. Whatever you enjoy.
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  • Have a goal in mind for where the relationship is headed, when you will be together and so on. Keep talking about this so you’re on the same page. If you’re making plans to close the distance at some point, talking about this goal can help keep you both positive.
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  • Talk to people when you’re down. If you’re really missing your partner, let your friends and family distract you and buoy you up through the hard days.
  • Talk to your partner about your worries and fears. This builds trust and helps avoid misunderstandings that can happen easily when there’s no face to face interaction.
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  • Keep the sexual side of the relationship alive. Sexy texts or even phone sex can help you beat sexual frustration.
  • It will be lonely at times – that’s almost unavoidable, but a physical distance between you doesn’t have to stop you being an intimate, committed couple. And if couples living apart have more intimate and meaningful interactions that couples who live together, there’s plenty to be positive about.

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