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I Am Married But Recently Developed Strong Interest For A Co-worker

I Am Married But Recently Developed Strong Interest For A Co-worker



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Hi NGTrends Readers,
First, I love my husband S and I’m not leaving him – that’s not even a question. So my company recently hired two new guys, and my boss asked me to mentor one of them. I said yes, and now I’m very attracted to this guy R. He is engaged with a young child, and from what I can tell, he is attracted to me, and also committed to staying with his fiance. R and I have been working together for a month now, we flirt (perhaps more than we should) and our conversations are laced with sub-texts because neither of us want to come out directly and say how we feel. R has also become a very good friend who I know I can count on and trust, and I really don’t want to lose that friendship. The result is this awkward dance around what we can and can’t say. R and I have not explicitly told each other that we’re attracted to each other, and I’m wondering if I should be honest with him about how I feel. A good friend, whose advice I trust, thinks that it would be best for me to bring it up, so that we can clear the air and set boundaries so that things don’t go too far. I’m just afraid that if I do, it will make things more awkward and make it more difficult to be friends. I also know that once I bring this up, I won’t be able to take it back.Again, I want to make it clear that I’m not leaving my husband, and my coworker knows this (and I know he won’t leave his fiance). I’m not bringing this up with the false hope that it’ll make something happen for us; I just want us to be able to be honest with each other and set some boundaries.

What would you do in my situation?



  1. Sweetheart, since you are having a thing for a coworker, know also that your husband is feeling same for someone else. Cut the chase girl, you are married. What is the attraction about? His physique? His disposition? When u get in, u will find out the hard way ur husband is golden. Such attraction is devilish. Set boundaries & tell him nothing. Search for the missing link, the Lacuna. There is a lapse in the part of your hussy that made you have such attraction in the first place. Try & help your husband through such and increase the romance you both have. If you tell him (Co-Worker) your friendship can’t remain thesame again! Just improve on your romance with your hubby.

  2. Why bring it up with him?? To what end? That will not only make things awkward, but will also make it easy for you guys to actually now cross boundaries… What I’ll advice is make conscious efforts to be more disciplined around him and not too personal. My 2 cents!

  3. One scientific evidence shows that a chemical called pheromones usually secreted while sweating can bring about attraction btw the opposite sex.. u said u have been working closely to him so its possible that’s just what is causing u to feel u this attraction towards him. A question to ask self, what if u get to mentor more guys in the course of ur career? Does that mean u’ll act on every attraction you feel towards them? That’s not professional as the same guys will use that to hunt you some day. So dnt feel guilty about how u feel currently happens to alot of people. U should only feel guilty when u act wrongly on the feeling.

  4. Babe wake up frm ur illlicit slumbers n knw al u r lookin for is sex outside marriage which iss kald adultery n trust me,der is notin hidden under d sun,if u go ahead n v sex wit dis guy,u ll find it uneasy 2stop it n y start sumtin u r not proud of. Plss remember d pride of a woman n dnt use a one nite stand 2destroy us marriage,a word is enough4d wise! Shalom


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