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Hi NGTrends Readers,
First, I love my husband S and I’m not leaving him – that’s not even a question. So my company recently hired two new guys, and my boss asked me to mentor one of them. I said yes, and now I’m very attracted to this guy R. He is engaged with a young child, and from what I can tell, he is attracted to me, and also committed to staying with his fiance. R and I have been working together for a month now, we flirt (perhaps more than we should) and our conversations are laced with sub-texts because neither of us want to come out directly and say how we feel. R has also become a very good friend who I know I can count on and trust, and I really don’t want to lose that friendship. The result is this awkward dance around what we can and can’t say. R and I have not explicitly told each other that we’re attracted to each other, and I’m wondering if I should be honest with him about how I feel. A good friend, whose advice I trust, thinks that it would be best for me to bring it up, so that we can clear the air and set boundaries so that things don’t go too far. I’m just afraid that if I do, it will make things more awkward and make it more difficult to be friends. I also know that once I bring this up, I won’t be able to take it back.Again, I want to make it clear that I’m not leaving my husband, and my coworker knows this (and I know he won’t leave his fiance). I’m not bringing this up with the false hope that it’ll make something happen for us; I just want us to be able to be honest with each other and set some boundaries.
What would you do in my situation?