TO ALL MARRIED WOMEN SUFFERING IN NIGERIA STRUGGLING TO BE CALLED MARRIED. #RedFlags
“Nigerians online say that people that have never been married have no authority to speak about marriage. Absolutely false! I have never been married and was engaged to my my fiance after we had two children but that engagement was quickly broken off after we had a third child because the relationship soured. Hollywood marriages have several stipulations where contracts called prenuptial agreements are signed and many other celebrities don’t even marry at all but just have children together.
“Women with several children for different men are scrutinized in Nigeria as compared to celebrity men like Tuface with several kids for many women or the P Square brothers who had kids out of wedlock. Society tends to blame the women. What led to my engagement breakdown was basically emotional and physical abuse. The emotional part being the worst and possibly what made Tiwa Savage end her marriage on camera. Nigerians and Africans around the world witnessed that last week with the award winning singer and her husband Tunji “TeeBillz” Balogun. Revelations came out in many forms as the Editor of ThisDay newspapers interviewed her while Pulse TV got the exclusive video which went viral on the internet with so many strange aspects.
“I predicted this breakdown almost three years ago in a Facebook post. “Why is Tiwa Savage marrying a man with kids and divorce is not final yet? This is how Nigerian celebrities screw up their lives.” I was crucified on social media for this statement and bloggers jumped on it all criticizing me as “jealous”. That was November 11th 2013.
“Red flags are all over potential marriages and Nigerian women planning to marry men who have previous children and relationships must be cautioned except if they know they are going into a polygamous marriage. Tiwa Savage had a music manager who was married to someone else, next she started dating him while he was still married and had not finalized his divorce and that was where I threw the caution and got ripped by Nigerians.
“People like Toke Makinwa, another young successful Nigerian media personality was the subject of another similar infidelity scandal. My advice to Makinwa was to exit her marriage as it was now “tainted” with an illegitimate baby. In Makinwa’s case her husband Maje Ayida impregnated and ex-girlfriend Anita Solomon who he secretly dated simultaneously with Makinwa. Makinwa just had a high profile wedding to Ayida and Solomon the other woman was busy watching from the outside.
Toke still does not have a child with Ayida and in my write up I suggested that she was too young, successful and does not need Ayida to use her money to lavish himself and someone else’s baby. I actually suggested that Makinwa end the marriage. She went on to address her fans on her popular video blog on what she was going to do distancing herself from the marriage but not clear. A few months later, she was seen with her estranged husband in public and all tongues were wagging. I can only give solid advice to young successful Nigerian women ending up in these unsuccessful relationships.
Tiwa Savage-Balogun’s endorsements may be at risk with Pepsi and Pampers after this saga and that revealing interview which also mentioned that TeeBillz her husband sometimes didn’t have money to buy diapers and was busy squandering all her cash on drugs. Many people blasted him on his instagram account on a particular photo of Jamil their son sitting next to cases of Pampers. Most women must speak out rather than suffering in a bad marriage. It is time all married women bypass tradition and talk about it. Don’t suffer within yourselves!”
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